On Match.com and niche dating sites

On Match.com and niche dating sites

At Lux Lounge on 666 South Avenue from On the Road. Destination Little Bohemia in the South Wedge.]

People ask me, why would you want to start a blog anyway? Duh. To meet girls online. (Oops, I just lost 3/4ths of my chances with that one.)


In November 2015, Match offered a group Candle Night Ghost tour in Highland Park. The evening wasn’t half bad. see Stalker of the Town Plays Jack the Ripper

Like many, I am on match.com. (see link to profile) It’s ok. I even reconnected with a woman I had briefly dated in high school and was glad I found her again.  But its one of only many venues. match.com/Profile/TalkeroftheTown

Recently, I have been reading that niche dating sites are proving popular and effective.  Basically, for any lifestyle and preferences niche sites allow people to find others like minded. We’ve all heard of JDate and Christian Mingle. Now there are hundreds like Gothic.match and Vedged.com.


From a (successful) match.com date in the Washington Grove section of Cobb’s Hill. Martha and I discovered an open window to the old water tower. Inside (not pictured) were skateboarders and some musicians taking advantage of the unusual acoustics, 2008 from 172 years ago when the Millerites trudged down Cobb’s Hill]

With that in mind, I am now marketing Talker of the Town as a niche dating site. For people who like to talk (in and out of town). And read and write.  As more people hopefully join the blog, we’ll get some interesting conversations going on the topic. And maybe Cupid will shoot his digital arrow.

I am using myself as a test case. The marketing plan. Over the summer place yourself in all sorts of whimsical, amusing settings. And write about them under the guise of being a man about town and gonzo journalist. Throw an impromptu poetry slam at Lux, ride in the Pace Car at the Criterium, get a caricature and your fortune told at the Park Ave Fest, write your own stanza on the Poets Walk, get dressed as a literary bohemian at the Pub Fair and appear back stage at La Cage aux Folles during the Fringe Festival. And call it your Summer of Love Picaresque.

On the Road. Destination Little Bohemia in the South Wedge and Join me at Twilight and Reverend Mothers, Empaths of Enlightenment, American buskers and more at the Park Avenue Festival and Emotions recollected in tranquility on University Ave and A little bit of the Moulon Rouge and Greenwich Village


In November 2015, Match offered a group Candle Night Ghost tour in Highland Park. The evening wasn’t half bad. see Stalker of the Town Plays Jack the Ripper

For those single and looking in their 30s, 40s and beyond, you know Rochester is considered, in the words of one cynic, a “dating graveyard.” Great to raise a family. Not so great to find a mate. Take a look at the Monroe County Census figures on marital status below. The numbers are especially brutal for the 35 – 55 age range.

So Talkers of the World unite, you have nothing to lose but your change.

Monroe County 2012 Census

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About The Author


Welcome to Talker of the Town! My name is David Kramer. I have a Ph.D in English and teach at Keuka College. I am a former and still active Fellow at the Nazareth College Center for Public History and a Storyteller in Residence at the SmallMatters Institute. Over the years, I have taught at Monroe Community College, the Rochester Institute of Technology and St. John Fisher College. I have published numerous Guest Essays, Letters, Book Reviews and Opinion pieces in The New York Times, Rochester Democrat and Chronicle, the Buffalo News, the Rochester Patriot, the Providence Journal, the Providence Business News, the Brown Alumni Magazine, the New London Day, the Boston Herald, the Messenger Post Newspapers, the Wedge, the Empty Closet, the CITY, Lake Affect Magazine and Brighton Connections. My poetry appears in The Criterion: An International Journal in English and Rundenalia and my academic writing in War, Literature and the Arts and Twentieth Century Literary Criticism. Starting in February 2013, I wrote for three Democratic and Chronicle  blogs, "Make City Schools Better," "Unite Rochester," and the "Editorial Board." When my tenure at the D & C  ended, I wanted to continue conversations first begun there. And start new ones.  So we created this new space, Talker of the Town, where all are invited to join. I don’t like to say these posts are “mine.” Very few of them are the sole product of my sometimes overheated imagination. Instead, I call them partnerships and collaborations. Or as they say in education, “peer group work.” Talker of the Town might better be Talkers of the Town. The blog won’t thrive without your leads, text, pictures, ideas, facebook shares, tweets, comments and criticisms.


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