Welcome Miss T, our new advice columnist

Welcome Miss T, our new advice columnist

Thilde in her home office [Provided by Thilde]

In different contexts, we’ve met Dr. Mathilde (Thilde) Weems. Thilde was educated at Brown and Stanford University, where she obtained degrees in Psychology and Medicine.  After 15 years of working in the private and public sector in psychiatry, Thilde came away with a deep understanding of the needs and desires of others and ultimately decided that she was better suited to serve others with her long held creative gifts.

Thilde Weems, Brown University Yearbook, Liber Brunensis, 1990

Following her artistic calling, in 2013 Thilde founded Belle Neptune, an independent apparel company. Exchanging patients for clients, Thilde deeply understands the issues that contribute to a woman’s self confidence and body image. (For more on Belle Neptune, see Moon Dress coming to Rochester from L.A. with love)

One element missing from Talker is the time honored American magazine feature: the advice column. To our indebtedness, Thilde (aka Miss T) is filling the psychic void.  Miss T (aka Misty) can answer questions simple — how to overcome deep seated neurotic relationship-thinking — and complex, like what to wear on a getaway weekend to Turning Stones.  Misty — paradoxically — will clear our clouded mental states.

Please send questions to [email protected]  Teal Thilde writes; “Don’t be shy, send in your quandary and/or suggestions for movie and book reviews related to psychology. Kindly refrain from political stuff.”

Drawn at random from dozens of initial responses is Miss T’s first question.

Dear Miss T,

My problem is unrequited love. I publish a community magazine. I am losing money in the venture. I have to beg writers for submissions. While we have a loyal readership, friends and family members barely read the articles, only under duress. My self-image is suffering. How do I get out before my heart is broken to bits?

— Scorned

David Kramer and Thilde Weems. Outside the Rhode Island Statehouse, Benefit Street, Providence 1987

Dear Scorned,

We all suffer for our art and our passion. I for one work harder than anyone I know and make zero money. Oftentimes, we wonder why it even matters or does anyone care or see us. Rather than “get out”, it’s time to double down. Perhaps you should appeal more to the narcissism of your contributors. Find out what their passion is and ask them to write about it. Provide a framework, an organizing question and limit the time spent on it. Encourage them to share about topics big and small that offer wonder and the impetus to keep going in their own lives.

Keep going,

Miss T.

Thilde and Skopey at Susan Brooks’ studio in Berkeley, CA [Provided by Thilde]


“I’ve seen Misty’s light!,” David Kramer atop Cobb’s Hill  [Photo: Eric Kemperman, 10/18/15] From On the 22nd of October, 1844 on top of Cobb’s Hill

UPDATES Miss T gives sage advice in her second answer and Miss T looks at friendships, then and now and Miss T advises on keeping it real and Miss T says a long layover lover should stay grounded


The sky announces the Moon Dress landing at Meliora Weekend

Moon Dress coming to Rochester from L.A. with love

Thilde remembers the dark side of the 1980s

Help Josué and enjoy his art

Shopping for all the women in your life at the La Femme Women’s Expo at Arbor Loft

About The Author


Welcome to Talker of the Town! My name is David Kramer. I have a Ph.D in English and teach at Keuka College. I am a former and still active Fellow at the Nazareth College Center for Public History and a Storyteller in Residence at the SmallMatters Institute. Over the years, I have taught at Monroe Community College, the Rochester Institute of Technology and St. John Fisher College. I have published numerous Guest Essays, Letters, Book Reviews and Opinion pieces in The New York Times, Rochester Democrat and Chronicle, the Buffalo News, the Rochester Patriot, the Providence Journal, the Providence Business News, the Brown Alumni Magazine, the New London Day, the Boston Herald, the Messenger Post Newspapers, the Wedge, the Empty Closet, the CITY, Lake Affect Magazine and Brighton Connections. My poetry appears in The Criterion: An International Journal in English and Rundenalia and my academic writing in War, Literature and the Arts and Twentieth Century Literary Criticism. Starting in February 2013, I wrote for three Democratic and Chronicle  blogs, "Make City Schools Better," "Unite Rochester," and the "Editorial Board." When my tenure at the D & C  ended, I wanted to continue conversations first begun there. And start new ones.  So we created this new space, Talker of the Town, where all are invited to join. I don’t like to say these posts are “mine.” Very few of them are the sole product of my sometimes overheated imagination. Instead, I call them partnerships and collaborations. Or as they say in education, “peer group work.” Talker of the Town might better be Talkers of the Town. The blog won’t thrive without your leads, text, pictures, ideas, facebook shares, tweets, comments and criticisms.


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