Thilde in her home office [Provided by Thilde]
In different contexts, we’ve met Dr. Mathilde (Thilde) Weems. Thilde was educated at Brown and Stanford University, where she obtained degrees in Psychology and Medicine. After 15 years of working in the private and public sector in psychiatry, Thilde came away with a deep understanding of the needs and desires of others and ultimately decided that she was better suited to serve others with her long held creative gifts.

Thilde Weems, Brown University Yearbook, Liber Brunensis, 1990
Following her artistic calling, in 2013 Thilde founded Belle Neptune, an independent apparel company. Exchanging patients for clients, Thilde deeply understands the issues that contribute to a woman’s self confidence and body image. (For more on Belle Neptune, see Moon Dress coming to Rochester from L.A. with love)
One element missing from Talker is the time honored American magazine feature: the advice column. To our indebtedness, Thilde (aka Miss T) is filling the psychic void. Miss T (aka Misty) can answer questions simple — how to overcome deep seated neurotic relationship-thinking — and complex, like what to wear on a getaway weekend to Turning Stones. Misty — paradoxically — will clear our clouded mental states.
Please send questions to [email protected] Teal Thilde writes; “Don’t be shy, send in your quandary and/or suggestions for movie and book reviews related to psychology. Kindly refrain from political stuff.”
Drawn at random from dozens of initial responses is Miss T’s first question.
Dear Miss T,
My problem is unrequited love. I publish a community magazine. I am losing money in the venture. I have to beg writers for submissions. While we have a loyal readership, friends and family members barely read the articles, only under duress. My self-image is suffering. How do I get out before my heart is broken to bits?
— Scorned
Dear Scorned,
CONSIDER OFFERING YOUR OWN DIAGNOSIS IN THE COMMENT SECTION AT ENDWe all suffer for our art and our passion. I for one work harder than anyone I know and make zero money. Oftentimes, we wonder why it even matters or does anyone care or see us. Rather than “get out”, it’s time to double down. Perhaps you should appeal more to the narcissism of your contributors. Find out what their passion is and ask them to write about it. Provide a framework, an organizing question and limit the time spent on it. Encourage them to share about topics big and small that offer wonder and the impetus to keep going in their own lives.
Keep going,
Miss T.

“I’ve seen Misty’s light!,” David Kramer atop Cobb’s Hill [Photo: Eric Kemperman, 10/18/15] From On the 22nd of October, 1844 on top of Cobb’s Hill
UPDATES Miss T gives sage advice in her second answer and Miss T looks at friendships, then and now and Miss T advises on keeping it real and Miss T says a long layover lover should stay grounded
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